Staying in the Present Moment

Why is a regular sleep schedule so important for feeling calm?

Think of sleep as your brain’s nightly reset button. When you don’t get enough quality sleep, your brain’s alarm system gets stuck on high alert, making you feel irritable and more anxious. Sticking to a consistent sleep and wake time, even on weekends, trains your brain to expect rest. This makes it easier to fall asleep and get the deep rest you need. A well-rested brain is simply better at handling stress and doesn’t panic over small things, helping you feel steadier throughout your entire day.

Why is it so hard to stop negative thoughts?

Telling yourself “stop thinking that!“ doesn’t work well because your brain focuses on the very thing you’re trying to avoid—like being told not to picture a pink elephant. It’s more effective to notice the thought without fighting it. Say to yourself, “Okay, I’m having the thought that this will go badly.“ Then, gently shift your focus to what you’re doing right now, like feeling your feet on the floor or listing three things you can see. This helps the thought lose its power and float away like a cloud.

How can I start if I feel overwhelmed or have no energy?

Start with the tiniest step you can imagine. You don’t need a big plan. Just stand up and stretch your arms toward the ceiling for ten seconds. Or, walk to the end of your driveway and back. That’s it. The goal isn’t to exercise; it’s to gently interrupt the anxious feeling. On days you have no energy, try a stretch while sitting in a chair or lying in bed. Any small movement is a victory that can help lift the heavy feeling a little bit.

What does a heavy blanket actually do for me?

A heavy blanket works like a firm, comforting hug. The gentle weight on your body helps your nervous system settle down. It can make you feel safe, grounded, and less jittery. Think of it as a signal to your body that it’s okay to relax and switch off from the busyness of the day. Many people find this deep pressure so calming that it helps quiet racing thoughts, making it easier to fall asleep or just rest quietly.

What if I’m too nervous to speak in the group?

That is a very common fear, and the good news is that you don’t have to say a single word if you don’t want to. You are usually welcome to just listen. Most groups understand that it takes time to feel comfortable. Just being in the room, hearing others talk about feelings similar to yours, can be incredibly helpful. As you listen and realize no one is judging you, you might slowly feel more at ease. The pressure is off; you can participate at your own pace.