Getting Extra Help

Can this really make a big difference in how I feel?

Yes, absolutely. It might seem too simple, but that’s its power. You are training your brain to be right here, right now, instead of worrying about the future or the past. Doing this for just a few minutes each day builds up your “focus muscle.“ You’ll start to find that you can call upon this calm feeling during more stressful parts of your day. It’s a small, manageable tool that, with practice, can help you feel more steady and peaceful in your daily life.

I’m not hungry when I’m anxious. How can I still eat?

It’s completely normal to lose your appetite when you’re feeling stressed or anxious. Forcing a big meal can feel impossible. Instead, think small and easy. Try a handful of nuts, a container of yogurt, a piece of fruit, or a smoothie. These are less overwhelming than a full plate of food. Even just a few bites are better than nothing. The goal is to get a little bit of fuel into your system to help settle your stomach and give your brain the energy it needs to start calming down.

What does “checking in with my body” even mean?

It simply means taking a quick moment to notice what’s happening inside you physically. Think of it like a quick scan from your head to your toes. You’re not trying to change anything or judge what you find. You’re just noticing. Is your stomach feeling tight? Are your shoulders up by your ears? Is your heart beating fast? Just naming these feelings to yourself is the first step. It helps you understand what’s going on before your feelings get too big and overwhelming.

What is “all-or-nothing” thinking?

This is when you see things in black and white, with no middle ground. For example, if you make one mistake, you might think, “I’m a total failure.“ Or, if a situation isn’t perfect, you see it as a complete disaster. It’s a harsh and unfair way to judge yourself and the world. Life is usually full of gray areas and “good enough” moments. Catching this habit helps you be kinder to yourself and see the partial successes, not just the total wins or losses.

What if I notice something that feels bad or uncomfortable?

That’s completely okay and actually the whole point! The goal isn’t to feel perfect; it’s to know what’s happening. If you notice a tight muscle or a nervous stomach, just acknowledge it without getting upset. You can say to yourself, “Okay, my neck is really tight right now.“ Just naming it can sometimes make it feel a little less powerful. Remember, you are not your feelings. You are the person noticing them, and that gives you back a sense of control.