Identifying Your Anxiety Triggers

Why is it so hard to be kind to myself sometimes?

It’s hard because we often talk to ourselves in a way we would never talk to a friend. If a friend made a mistake, you’d probably tell them, “It’s okay, everyone messes up.“ But when we make the same mistake, our inner voice can be much harsher. We think being tough on ourselves will make us do better, but it usually just makes us feel more stressed and anxious. It’s a habit, and like any habit, it takes practice to change it into something more helpful.

How can I remember to be present when I’m feeling overwhelmed?

It helps to connect the practice to something you already do often. This is called an “anchor.“ For example, every time you walk through a doorway, use it as a reminder to check in with yourself. Take one deep breath and notice how you’re feeling. Or, every time your phone dings with a notification, pause for a moment to feel your feet flat on the floor. By linking the practice to daily habits, you build the muscle of noticing the present without it feeling like another chore on your to-do list.

What if I don’t have a big group of supportive friends?

That’s perfectly okay! The goal isn’t to have a huge crowd, but to find just one or two people you truly connect with. This could be a family member, a coworker, an old friend, or even a neighbor. Think about who makes you feel heard and good about yourself after you talk to them. Focus on strengthening those one or two relationships. A single, solid, supportive connection is far more powerful for your peace of mind than a dozen shallow ones where you still feel alone.

Are there herbs that help with the physical feelings of anxiety, like a shaky stomach?

Absolutely. Ginger is a champion at soothing the physical side of anxiety, especially an upset or shaky stomach. While it’s famous for settling nausea, it also has a warming, calming effect on your whole system. Peppermint is another great option for calming stomach cramps and tension. Sipping a ginger or peppermint tea when you feel those nervous flutters in your gut can provide direct, fast-acting relief, making your body feel more comfortable and settled.