Food and Mood

Is there a calming herb that can also help me sleep?

Valerian root is famous for helping people who have trouble switching off their brain at night. It’s often called “nature’s valium” because of its powerful relaxing effect, but it’s completely natural. Drinking valerian tea about an hour before bed can signal to your body that it’s time to rest. It helps ease the physical tension and busy thoughts that keep you awake, guiding you into a deeper, more restful sleep so you can wake up feeling truly refreshed.

What does “staying in the present moment” even mean?

It simply means focusing on what is happening right now, instead of worrying about the future or thinking about the past. When you feel anxious, your mind is often racing about things that haven’t happened yet. Staying present helps you step out of that worry cycle. You can do this by paying close attention to your surroundings—what you can see, hear, and feel at this very second. It’s about training your brain to notice the current moment, which is often much calmer than the scary stories your anxiety tells you.

What should I actually do when I’m with them?

Be yourself and focus on enjoying the moment. You don’t always have to talk about your anxiety or deep problems. Often, the biggest relief comes from laughing, sharing a story, or talking about a common interest. If you are struggling, it’s okay to be honest and say, “I’ve been feeling really stressed, can I talk about it?“ But remember, it’s also powerful to just enjoy the distraction and positive feelings that come from a good, simple hangout with someone who gets you.

Why is it so hard for me to stop my mind from racing?

It’s hard because your brain is like a supercomputer trying to protect you by predicting danger. It’s a good system, but it can get stuck on overdrive, constantly scanning for threats. This is what causes that racing, anxious feeling. The good news is you can gently guide it back. You don’t have to stop your thoughts completely. Just practice noticing when your mind has wandered and then softly bring your attention back to something real in the room, like your breath or the feeling of your feet on the floor.

Will taking a break make me an uninformed or uncaring person?

Not at all. Taking a break doesn’t mean you don’t care; it means you care about your own mental health. You cannot pour from an empty cup. By stepping back, you are giving yourself the space to recharge. This actually helps you be more present and engaged with the world around you when you are ready. A well-rested and calm you is better able to help others and understand complex issues.